This thread is closed to new comments. Call BS. I reiterated that I trusted her completely, and knew she would never do anything like that again. OK, I posed a similar hypothetical to my husband -- my husband who, I should point out, recently had no objection to staying at home with our three-year-old while I went out to dinner and a concert with another man with whom I have a close and flirtatious friendship. Listen to your gut. And you certainly don't invite her to go swimming together without inviting him.
Those first few times he met his friend, I had what I can only describe as out-of-body experiences.
I think most successful marriages operate on that principle. I think I speak for everyone when I say that we wish you luck. Either your husband is jealous of the TIME you spend communicating with Eric -- time that Mark feels would be better spent with him -- or he may not understand the dynamics of a friendship between some gay men and straight women. Are you unused to doing fun things alone?
At the very least, you should talk to one too, so that you can get confirmation that your feelings are valid and that you are not the only one who has to compromise.